Oddball, Jude calls Mary. That, he says, was his defence of her when Angie complained to him about Mary’s interference and criticism. He goes on, while having it out with his mother, to tell her that she’s a freak, evil and should never be allowed near children. Wow!
Yes, Mary may be an oddball and her actions can be harmful despite being gussied up as love. But dangerous? I think not, but she did almost abduct baby George. Dev points out to her that she is wonderful with his twins and they love her dearly. But she points out to him the clincher: Dev’s children are his children, baby George is her grandson. So while she is able to maintain a normal and healthy distance with Asha and Aadi, she goes right off the deep end when it’s her own flesh and blood (my words, not hers).
I don’t know how either Angie or Jude have tolerated her behaviour for as long as they have. Angie has let her animosity show, which is hardly surprising. But Jude has been happy, peacemaking and a loving son and husband. I’ve wondered what’s wrong with him. How could he subject himself and his wife to Mary’s overbearing presence in their lives? Also, how could he not know how upset Angie was about it? A quiet word with mother, perhaps, maybe you should back off a bit. After all, Norris and Dev have both said it straight out to her. Toyah has hinted at it.
Had Jude been a bit more proactive at drawing boundaries, maybe his scene with Mary on Tuesday could have been avoided. She will push and push until she is made to stop. He doesn’t know that, not having known her for long. But still, the damage she is doing had to be pretty evident. But he hasn’t known her for long – therefore hasn’t become inured to her ways as most people do with their parents. ‘Oh, that’s just Mom’ isn’t something he knows from years of exposure. Yes, he’s trying to get to know his mother. He’s happy that his childhood dream has come true, to know his ‘real’ mother. And he’s trying to accept and love her.
Unfortunately, all those conflicting elements and emotions caused him to bury his head in the sand until they – and he – exploded. He was very cruel to Mary. I hope he apologizes and they can get on some kind of even track. But that will be up to Mary too.
In this storyline, she has not been the Mary I like, even admire. But I happened upon an old scene of the week, and saw Mary really hasn’t changed. In 2012 she pushed Roy over the edge. Then, as now, she justified herself by saying ‘I’m doing it for you,’ ‘I only meant to help’ – self-serving excuses for self-serving behaviour. Poor Angie has even been subjected to it second-hand. “She means well”, Toyah has told her. How can you argue with that, without sounding like a selfish cow yourself?