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Corrie Street July 14/13

Brilliant scenes this week with Roy’s sleepwalking OCD, Emily’s convalescence and Norris’ fears for his future and especially a Gift of the Magi moment with Tina and Izzy windass-armstrong-rovers(he’s your baby; no, he’s yours).   But it was the Windass-Armstrong clan that did it for me again.  Oh please, God of Corrie, make those creepy people stop!

My husband observed:  “I think glad Windasses are worse than mad Windasses.”  In the pub, while Tina was trying to work and maintain composure around them and everyone else, they fawned over her or, in their attempt to owen-anna-roversizzy-gary-roversgive her some space, had happy family discussions about the baby – all within earshot of her.  I cringed on Tina’s behalf.  What a horrible strain to try to keep it together while they are wittering tina-tommy-roverson, either directly to her or amongst themselves.  Despite my belief that she had no right to keep the baby or put them through the nightmare that she did, at that moment I was wishing she would say to them, ‘listen up – back away now or I take the baby back.’

I know she’s signed the papers and can’t do that – but.  Can they not see that the best way they could thank her is to just shut up about the whole thing around her, maybe even give her some space that is free of them?  Even jake-is-doing-really-wellIzzy, who has much more sensitivity toward people’s feelings than the others do, can’t shut up about it.  If she isn’t looking doe-eyed at Tina, thanking and thanking and thanking, she’s telling Tina about the baby or apologizing for her father.  All Owen did was attempt to right a wrong by offering her back the flat.  Awkward, yes, but at least he didn’t mention the blessed baby while doing it!

On Friday, Gary and Izzy once again come into the Rovers while Tina is working.  He have-a-drink-with-usapologizes to her and Tommy for the night before when he had been insistent they join the clan for drinks.  He was drunk, he says.  Not a crime in a bar, Tina says.  Being drunk may excuse his aggressive conviviality, but it cannot be an excuse or explanation for all the other times he and the rest of them have been getting in Tina’s face.

It’s going to be very hard for Tina when they bring the baby home.  Then she will not be able to avoid seeing him and them with him.  time-we-all-moved-onSo can’t they give her a bit of a break now, while he’s still in hospital and let her go through her separation and grieving time without constant reminders?  I avoid spoilers so I don’t know if Tina is staying or leaving.  However, if I were her, I’d have my bags packed and be out of Weatherfield so fast that even racing Windasses wouldn’t be able to catch up with me.

Corrie Street June 23/13

Rita-and-Tina-in-hall“What happens with Rita stays with Rita” is what Tina wanted to hear.   She needed to hear what Rita said moments earlier when they talked beside baby Jake’s incubator.  The baby is not yours to keep, Rita told Tina.  It’s quite natural that she would have a strong attachment to the infant she carried, but he is Izzy and Gary’s baby.  End of.

take-your-word-for-thatRita is the only person who could say these things to Tina without ticking her off.  Even so, Tina managed to hurt Rita by reminding her, perhaps inadvertently, that she could not know how it feels to give birth to a child.  Rita rallied and let Tina know that she supported her but that she needed to get over her feelings and remember that she was a temporary mother for the child of what-you-saidother people.

This was a powerful and nuanced scene between two women who are friends and, themselves, kind of a mother-daughter surrogacy.  Tina’s confusion and defensiveness was obvious, as was Rita’s deep affection and her trepidation about raising a difficult topic.

Tommy was glad to see the cavalry arrive.  A bit earlier he had said the same thing to just-in-timeTina but she was not taking it from him.  In order to show his love and support for Tina, he had go along with her idea of keeping the baby.  He cannot find the right balance between support and uncomfortable truths in addressing Tina’s wishes and intentions.  Even if he did, he is her boyfriend and is of the same age.  It’s a different relationship dynamic than with Rita.   Tina will listen to her, a woman and older, with more deference than she would to anyone, male or female, of her own age.  The two scenes nicely counterpointed each other.

Owen-entersJust when maybe Rita was getting somewhere with Tina, in walks Owen.  My husband said the Armstrongs and Windasses are like blackflies in a Canadian summer – everywhere, all the time.  You can’t get away from them.

All the actors in this story have been brilliant and Tina especially so.  Her facial and body language alone convey the torment she is feeling.  There have been inconsistencies in what she has said, as there likely would be in such a situation.  She told I-can-see-whyTommy that she realized the extent of her love for the baby when he became ill then moments later told Rita it had nothing to do with his illness, that she had felt it since he was born.  Both statements are true but, of the two, I suspect what she told Rita is truer.  With Rita, she can be completely honest.  Rita demands honesty from her and returns it even when she knows it isn’t what Tina wants to hear.

Tina-looks-at-babyRita’s initial doubts about the surrogacy are proving justified.  Standing in the nursery with Rita, Tina said “I always thought I was the least maternal person in the world.”  Therefore, she left unsaid, giving up the baby would not be a problem for her.  “Now look at me,” realizing that time and a tiny baby change you.  Her words to Tommy showed the price of trying to straighten out that confusion, the pain of “hating yourself for loving your baby.”